Category: acceptance

Antidotes for Afflictive Emotions Part II: Acceptance

In this multi-part blog post series, we having been exploring afflictive (or disturbing) emotions and more helpful ways we can relate to them.  In Part I, we discussed how courage, compassion and wisdom help us respond more skillfully so that suffering is reduced.  In Part II we will talk about acceptance, which is allowing (rather than avoiding,…

Wise Compassion

For some time I have been meaning to revise an old blog post of mine called What Does “Too Nice” Mean?  I think the phrase “too nice” is an unfortunate one because I don’t think its actually possible to be so.  Kindness, thoughtfulness, and compassion are wonderful strengths and the world could certainly use more.  But, it…

Compassionate Self-Care

Most of us would never consider neglecting our children or pets.  That would be cruel.  We also know what happens when we neglect important relationships.  They wither and fade away.  Neglect our car, it malfunctions and dies.  Neglect our schoolwork or jobs, our performance suffers and we fall behind.  But, what about neglecting ourselves? Many…

Making a Change

When a person has been experiencing longstanding discomfort – perhaps months or years of unhappiness, anxiety, loneliness, anger – they certainly know they want to feel better, but they may be unsure of what to do about it. Breaking out of these uncomfortable feeling patterns often requires a change – and change is hard! Successful…

The Secret is Acceptance

Remember the book “The Secret“? Take a look at the movie trailer, the website, the Vinny Verelli sketch, and the Saturday Night Live spoof and you can get a “Cliff’s Notes”-like understanding of it’s basic tenets. Most of us have a healthy skepticism of statements that are universal and absolute. Anything that promises to deliver…