Category: acceptance
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Healing After A Breakup
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in acceptance, breakups, couples, dating, grief, Grieving, loss, rejection, relationship, relationships, sadBreakups are an inevitable part of finding the right partner and although almost everyone gets through them successfully, the process can be very painful and difficult to manage. Everyone is different and we all have our own ways of grieving, but there are a few common elements that seem to help people heal faster after…
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Wise Compassion
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For some time I have been meaning to revise an old blog post of mine called What Does “Too Nice” Mean? I think the phrase “too nice” is an unfortunate one because I don’t think its actually possible to be so. Kindness, thoughtfulness, and compassion are wonderful strengths and the world could certainly use more. But, it…
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The Blue Pill: Caught in the Quicksand of Confirmation Bias
Most of us have had this experience: we are stubbornly pushing forward with a decision or toward a goal based on a gut feeling, ignoring the advice and warnings of concerned others and discounting any evidence that doesn’t support our desires. Then, when things go wrong, we don’t want to think or talk about it…
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Feelings Aren’t Facts; They’re Signals
Feelings are real, but they are not facts. They are: Feelings aren’t the problem, it’s how we respond to them that can cause trouble. Be curious about your feelings rather than judging them. Don’t avoid them and don’t get caught up in them, just observe them. Treat feelings like the signals they are. When you see…
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Compassionate Self-Care
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Most of us would never consider neglecting our children or pets. That would be cruel. We also know what happens when we neglect important relationships. They wither and fade away. Neglect our car, it malfunctions and dies. Neglect our schoolwork or jobs, our performance suffers and we fall behind. But, what about neglecting ourselves? Many…
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Making a Change
When a person has been experiencing longstanding discomfort – perhaps months or years of unhappiness, anxiety, loneliness, anger – they certainly know they want to feel better, but they may be unsure of what to do about it. Breaking out of these uncomfortable feeling patterns often requires a change – and change is hard! Successful…
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Can I Trust Again?
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in acceptance, betrayal, faith, forgiveness, hurt, infidelity, love, marriage, relationships, risk, trustMost of us have been hurt or betrayed at some point in our lives. Its a terrible feeling that can have lasting repercussions, if we let it. When our experiences of hurt and betrayal linger, they can seep into our future relationships and impact our functioning with our families, friendships and colleagues. These negative feelings…
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The Secret is Acceptance
Remember the book “The Secret“? Take a look at the movie trailer, the website, the Vinny Verelli sketch, and the Saturday Night Live spoof and you can get a “Cliff’s Notes”-like understanding of it’s basic tenets. Most of us have a healthy skepticism of statements that are universal and absolute. Anything that promises to deliver…
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Grieving a Loss
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Grieving is a normal human response to losing someone or something important. Experiencing a loss can involve strong emotions, troublesome physical symptoms, and may require a period of adjustment. The way we experience grief can be influenced by a number of factors including the nature of the loss and the meaning we make of it,…