Category: giving
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Wise Compassion
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For some time I have been meaning to revise an old blog post of mine called What Does “Too Nice” Mean? I think the phrase “too nice” is an unfortunate one because I don’t think its actually possible to be so. Kindness, thoughtfulness, and compassion are wonderful strengths and the world could certainly use more. But, it…
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Finding Balance in Relationships
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Most of us understand that being repeatedly selfish, cruel and neglectful in relationships is a sure way to destroy them. But, did you know you can also kill a relationship with kindness? If you have been told you are “too nice”, you may be inadvertently skewing the balance of equity required for healthy adult relationships.…
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A Path Toward Happiness: Help Others, Help Yourself
Researchers have found that one of the key elements of happiness is altruism or kindness to others. It turns out that most human beings get a boost from helping others and doing good things for the world. I have often suggested volunteering as a therapeutic tool for improving mental health; especially with conditions like depression,…
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Selflessness
Our society values and encourages selflessness. We think about self-sacrifice and putting others before ourselves as virtuous qualities. To be selfless means, “having no regard to self”. Although we may choose to act selflessly at times (which can be a wonderful thing), we cannot completely disregard ourselves. Remember the Zen-Buddhist saying, “Wherever you go, there…