US culture strongly values competition. Our country is built on a system that relies on it as a self-regulating force. We are taught that it builds character, drives innovation, encourages excellence, and motivates growth and improvement. But, it is also important to understand that serious competition requires an attitude of scarcity and limitation – the…
Breakups are an inevitable part of finding the right partner and although almost everyone gets through them successfully, the process can be very painful and difficult to manage. Everyone is different and we all have our own ways of grieving, but there are a few common elements that seem to help people heal faster after…
The Approach-Avoidance Cycle (AAC) – also known as the Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic, Push-Pull Relationship, or Engulfment vs. Abandonment – is a pattern that emerges in relationships where one individual wants more of something (or wants the other person to change in some way) – this is the pursuer– and the other individual resists or withdraws –…
Photo by Sean Ochester Most of us understand that being repeatedly selfish, cruel and neglectful in relationships is a sure way to destroy them. But, did you know you can also kill a relationship with kindness? If you have been told you are “too nice”, you may be inadvertently skewing the balance of equity required…
Have you found yourself at the end of your rope in your relationship? Perhaps you are feeling very dissatisfied, but your partner doesn’t seem willing to make a change. Or maybe, things have changed for periods of time, but they inevitably drift back to the way they were. If this rings true, feelings of resentment…
Positive parenting is a way to set expectations, instill values and live together as a family in relative peace while maintaining a resilient and satisfying relationship with your child. An essential part of a positive parenting is developing a strong foundation of trust, love and respect. It will be difficult to interact with your child…
How do we know when we should trust someone? When our expectations haven’t been met or we have been disappointed by someone we trusted, it can be difficult to trust again. Trust is Adaptive Human beings are born with the ability to trust because it increases our likelihood of survival. When we are in need,…
