Maya Yoga asked me to write about some of the benefits of my personal yoga and meditation practice for their Inspiring Stories series. Below is an excerpt. Please click the link to read the post in its entirety: Tracy Ochester is a reputed psychologist who incorporates mindfulness training into her professional sessions. She is an…
The Approach-Avoidance Cycle (AAC) – also known as the Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic, Push-Pull Relationship, or Engulfment vs. Abandonment – is a pattern that emerges in relationships where one individual wants more of something (or wants the other person to change in some way) – this is the pursuer– and the other individual resists or withdraws –…
Photo by Sean Ochester Most of us understand that being repeatedly selfish, cruel and neglectful in relationships is a sure way to destroy them. But, did you know you can also kill a relationship with kindness? If you have been told you are “too nice”, you may be inadvertently skewing the balance of equity required…
Most of us have been hurt or betrayed at some point in our lives. Its a terrible feeling that can have lasting repercussions, if we let it. When our experiences of hurt and betrayal linger, they can seep into our future relationships and impact our functioning with our families, friendships and colleagues. These negative feelings…
Most people learn how to be in relationships from the people they grew up with and if you had destructive role models, there is a chance you might find yourself in a similar situation as an adult. Sometimes people wind up repeating a cycle they witnessed or experienced as youngsters. Other times, in an effort…
Have you found yourself at the end of your rope in your relationship? Perhaps you are feeling very dissatisfied, but your partner doesn’t seem willing to make a change. Or maybe, things have changed for periods of time, but they inevitably drift back to the way they were. If this rings true, feelings of resentment…
Emotions are important to optimal life functioning, but due to conditioning and socialization, many men in our society tend to be at a disadvantage when it comes to recognizing, understanding and managing them. This is largely due to the way we have historically raised and treated boys in US culture. Fortunately, it is possible increase one’s understanding of…
Is it possible to be nice to a fault? When asked directly, most people will say niceness is a strength; however, if being “too nice” has ever been someone’s reason for rejecting you, niceness can feel more like a curse than a blessing. Are you really “too nice” or are you striking up relationships with…
Positive parenting is a way to set expectations, instill values and live together as a family in relative peace while maintaining a resilient and satisfying relationship with your child. An essential part of a positive parenting is developing a strong foundation of trust, love and respect. It will be difficult to interact with your child…
How do we know when we should trust someone? When our expectations haven’t been met or we have been disappointed by someone we trusted, it can be difficult to trust again. Trust is Adaptive Human beings are born with the ability to trust because it increases our likelihood of survival. When we are in need,…
