Category: emotions

The Power of Pet Peeves

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Are you easily annoyed by people or situations? Does traffic on the commute to work make your teeth grind? Maybe the way your partner eats has you muttering under your breath. Perhaps you have a very specific collection of pet peeves – things that are likely to set you off and put you in a foul mood. Psychological irritation is a…

Is it Jealousy or Are You Just Hungry?

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Are there times when you find yourself feeling resentful when you witness someone else’s good fortune? Do you become suspicious and possessive when someone you love shows affection for another? And if so, do you then beat yourself up for feeling this way? Jealousy is an emotion that arises out of an attitude of scarcity, deficit, or…

Antidotes for Afflictive Emotions Part II: Acceptance

In this multi-part blog post series, we having been exploring afflictive (or disturbing) emotions and more helpful ways we can relate to them.  In Part I, we discussed how courage, compassion and wisdom help us respond more skillfully so that suffering is reduced.  In Part II we will talk about acceptance, which is allowing (rather than avoiding,…

Antidotes for Afflictive Emotions Part I: Courage, Compassion & Wisdom

In this multi-part blog post series, we will explore afflictive (or disturbing) emotions and look at more helpful ways to approach them. Afflictive emotions are feelings that create suffering like anger, hatred, greed, fear, lust, jealousy, and even passion.  They are usually accompanied by physical sensations as well as habitual patterns of thinking and responding that only serve to intensify the…

The Suffering Sandwich

Imagine for a moment that suffering is like a sandwich.  Some painful things are inevitable, unavoidable and outside of our control – such as the pain caused by other people’s actions and extraordinary events that occur.  This is the bread in our suffering sandwich – after all, its just not a sandwich without the bread.…

Men and Emotions

Emotions are important to optimal life functioning, but due to conditioning and socialization, many men in our society tend to be at a disadvantage when it comes to recognizing, understanding and managing them. This is largely due to the way we have historically raised and treated boys in US culture. Fortunately, it is possible increase one’s understanding of…