Category: coping

Meditation as Desensitization

Research has shown that meditation can help with stress and anxiety. With the rise in war exposed veterans in the US needing treatment, studies are being conducted to see how mindfulness and meditation can help people dealing with trauma. As a psychologist with a regular meditation practice, I have noticed how closely meditation resembles the exposure…

Managing Impulsive Behavior

Do you or a loved one have a pattern of reacting quickly before really thinking things through, only to later experience regret or other unpleasant consequences? Impulsive behavior can include relatively minor annoyances like talking out of turn or jumping the gun to more serious problems like taking dangerous risks or acting out destructively on…

Even Amidst Tragedy, “All That We Are Arises With Our Thoughts”

When it comes to tragedy, loss or unexpected death (such as by accident, suicide, acts of violence, or natural disaster), our focus is naturally drawn toward what has been lost.  In our shock and sadness, we find ourselves spending countless hours wondering why and speculating about how something like this could happen.  In our anguish over these…

Changing Harmful Behavior Patterns

We all engage in problematic behavior from time to time, despite the fact that we intellectually realize it’s not good for us.  When we do this repeatedly, it can feel like a painful trap we fall into over and over again that we are powerless to avoid.  These patterns can include things like turning to…

The Suffering Sandwich

Imagine for a moment that suffering is like a sandwich.  Some painful things are inevitable, unavoidable and outside of our control – such as the pain caused by other people’s actions and extraordinary events that occur.  This is the bread in our suffering sandwich – after all, its just not a sandwich without the bread.…

Coping with Setbacks & Disappointment

When you are working toward a positive change in your life, setbacks such as loss, failure and rejection can make you feel discouraged, frustrated, anxious and sad. Too much of this can lead to self-doubt, depression, and getting completely off track. It is important to understand that setbacks and disappointments are unavoidable and perhaps even…