Category: thoughts

The Problem with Positive Thinking

Many times I find my clients have incorporated the idea somewhere along the way that they need to be thinking more positively. While it holds understandable appeal, the problem with this strategy is that it is no more sustainable than thinking negatively. It rejects what is and attempts to replace it with what is preferred. Both negative…

Antidotes for Afflictive Emotions Part I: Courage, Compassion & Wisdom

In this multi-part blog post series, we will explore afflictive (or disturbing) emotions and look at more helpful ways to approach them. Afflictive emotions are feelings that create suffering like anger, hatred, greed, fear, lust, jealousy, and even passion.  They are usually accompanied by physical sensations as well as habitual patterns of thinking and responding that only serve to intensify the…

The Suffering Sandwich

Imagine for a moment that suffering is like a sandwich.  Some painful things are inevitable, unavoidable and outside of our control – such as the pain caused by other people’s actions and extraordinary events that occur.  This is the bread in our suffering sandwich – after all, its just not a sandwich without the bread.…