Does Anger Equal Caring?

Have you ever been frustrated with a loved one who didn’t seem to get as mad as you did about a perceived injustice? Did you ever feel flattered or impressed by someone else’s anger, thinking, “they must really care”? If so, you might unconsciously be using anger as a barometer for caring. Most of us…

Evaluating Mindfulness

Evaluating the efficacy of psychological interventions is incredibly complicated. There is no definitive blood test in commercial use for depression or anxiety – yet. Brain scans are not sophisticated or affordable enough at this time to show us whether we are afflicted or cured. Outcomes must be determined by observation of behavior or self-report and…

Creating Creativity

That contented, peaceful feeling you get when you are working on your adult coloring book – its not all in your head. It turns out that creative pursuits are actually good for you. Research is demonstrating that creative engagement has significant positive effects on health. It is correlated with less distress,  increased positive emotions, and improved wellbeing.…

The Power of Expectations

Do you tend to go into situations with expectations about what will transpire or are you more likely to approach life with an open mind? It is human to make assumptions and try to predict what might happen next. If we are accurate in our predictions, this may be useful for our very survival. Our expectations…

Is Competition Overrated?

US culture strongly values competition. Our country is built on a system that relies on it as a self-regulating force. We are taught that it builds character, drives innovation, encourages excellence, and motivates growth and improvement. But, it is also important to understand that serious competition requires an attitude of scarcity and limitation – the…

The Wisdom of Questioning

When an individual or group blindly accepts a concept as truth without questioning, we might say they “drank the Kool-Aid“.  This saying is based on an unfortunate incident in the past where a large group of people died following their troubled leader’s orders.  Blind acceptance without reason is often a fool-hardy venture and sometimes even…

In Search of Truth

In this era of alternative facts and fake news, it can be difficult to differentiate truth from falsehood. Truth is a highly valued concept. I often work with clients who are in great personal distress and civilization has a long history of people misguidedly harming others in their passionate efforts to uphold truth. Did you know we…

The Power of Pet Peeves

Are you easily annoyed by people or situations? Does traffic on the commute to work make your teeth grind? Maybe the way your partner eats has you muttering under your breath. Perhaps you have a very specific collection of pet peeves – things that are likely to set you off and put you in a foul mood. Psychological irritation is a…