Is it Jealousy or Are You Just Hungry?

Are there times when you find yourself feeling resentful when you witness someone else’s good fortune? Do you become suspicious and possessive when someone you love shows affection for another? And if so, do you then beat yourself up for feeling this way? Jealousy is an emotion that arises out of an attitude of scarcity, deficit, or…

The You Factor in Psychotherapy

Did you know that you are the most important factor in your therapy?  It may seem surprising given the amount of time we spend searching for the right provider and the right therapy approach.  However, research shows that around 55% of therapy outcome is related to extra-therapeutic factors such as client readiness for change, willingness,…

Meditation as Desensitization

Research has shown that meditation can help with stress and anxiety. With the rise in war exposed veterans in the US needing treatment, studies are being conducted to see how mindfulness and meditation can help people dealing with trauma. As a psychologist with a regular meditation practice, I have noticed how closely meditation resembles the exposure…

How Meditation Helps

A growing body of research is showing that there are many physical and mental health benefits to practicing meditation. Mindfulness (vipassana) meditation is useful in managing pain and distressing mood states. According to the National Institute of Health’s National Center for Alternative and Complimentary Medicine (NCCAM) “there’s evidence that [meditation] may reduce blood pressure as well as symptoms…

Why Mysore?

Mysore style practice is a specific way of learning Ashtanga Yoga as taught by Sri K. Pattabhi Jois in Mysore, India. It involves one-on-one instruction in a group format, but the class is not led by the teacher. Rather, students practice at their own pace and the teacher goes from student to student assisting each individually…

Tips for Teens: Talking to Your Parents So They Will Listen

There are plenty of teenagers out there who feel like their parents don’t listen to them. It can seem hopeless – like they just don’t get it. If this sounds familiar to you, here are some tips about how to talk to parents so you are more likely to be heard. Regularly initiate communication with your parents – not just when you want…

Managing Impulsive Behavior

Do you or a loved one have a pattern of reacting quickly before really thinking things through, only to later experience regret or other unpleasant consequences? Impulsive behavior can include relatively minor annoyances like talking out of turn or jumping the gun to more serious problems like taking dangerous risks or acting out destructively on…

Even Amidst Tragedy, “All That We Are Arises With Our Thoughts”

When it comes to tragedy, loss or unexpected death (such as by accident, suicide, acts of violence, or natural disaster), our focus is naturally drawn toward what has been lost.  In our shock and sadness, we find ourselves spending countless hours wondering why and speculating about how something like this could happen.  In our anguish over these…