Category: avoidance

Meditation as Desensitization

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Research has shown that meditation can help with stress and anxiety. With the rise in war exposed veterans in the US needing treatment, studies are being conducted to see how mindfulness and meditation can help people dealing with trauma. As a psychologist with a regular meditation practice, I have noticed how closely meditation resembles the exposure…

Antidotes for Afflictive Emotions Part II: Acceptance

In this multi-part blog post series, we having been exploring afflictive (or disturbing) emotions and more helpful ways we can relate to them.  In Part I, we discussed how courage, compassion and wisdom help us respond more skillfully so that suffering is reduced.  In Part II we will talk about acceptance, which is allowing (rather than avoiding,…

Procrastination: Causes and Antidotes Chart

Procrastination is a learned behavior involving self-regulation skills, emotions, attitudes, as well as other factors we may be unaware of. While everyone procrastinates, chronic procrastination can cause a number of complications. It can result in reduced productivity, failure to reach one’s potential, and feelings of shame, worthlessness, and despair.  There can even be health consequences…

Getting Unstuck

One of the trickiest aspects of a psychologist’s job is to help motivate clients to do things they are reluctant to do, but may help them feel better.  Common mental health problems like depression and anxiety involve a biased or stereotyped pattern of thinking and behaving which maintains or exacerbates the condition.  These patterns keep…

The Approach-Avoidance Cycle in Relationships

The Approach-Avoidance Cycle (AAC) – also known as the Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic, Push-Pull Relationship, or Engulfment vs. Abandonment – is a pattern that emerges in relationships where one individual wants more of something (or wants the other person to change in some way) – this is the pursuer– and the other individual resists or withdraws –…