Category: relationships
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Empowering or Enabling?
How do we know when we’re enabling a loved one – feeding their unhealthy habits rather than empowering them toward greater confidence and autonomy? Mindfulness of the intentions behind our actions and their consequences can help.
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Assumptions: Filling in the Gaps
An assumption is something we accept as true or certain, without much solid evidence. We all make assumptions – the problem is, we are often not even aware that we are making them. A mindfulness practice can make us more aware of them so we can see things clearly and respond appropriately.
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You, Who Have Been Disappointed in Love
There is a great sadness many of us carry around the loss of a love. Sometimes this disappointment involves the actual loss of a relationship and other times it is related to an inability to have the kind of love we want. To you who have been disappointed in love, I say “welcome to the…
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Is Competition Overrated?
US culture strongly values competition. Our country is built on a system that relies on it as a self-regulating force. We are taught that it builds character, drives innovation, encourages excellence, and motivates growth and improvement. But, it is also important to understand that serious competition requires an attitude of scarcity and limitation – the…
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Healing After A Breakup
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in acceptance, breakups, couples, dating, grief, Grieving, loss, rejection, relationship, relationships, sadBreakups are an inevitable part of finding the right partner and although almost everyone gets through them successfully, the process can be very painful and difficult to manage. Everyone is different and we all have our own ways of grieving, but there are a few common elements that seem to help people heal faster after…
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Tips for Teens: Talking to Your Parents So They Will Listen
There are plenty of teenagers out there who feel like their parents don’t listen to them. It can seem hopeless – like they just don’t get it. If this sounds familiar to you, here are some tips about how to talk to parents so you are more likely to be heard. Regularly initiate communication with your parents – not just when you want…
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Wise Compassion
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For some time I have been meaning to revise an old blog post of mine called What Does “Too Nice” Mean? I think the phrase “too nice” is an unfortunate one because I don’t think its actually possible to be so. Kindness, thoughtfulness, and compassion are wonderful strengths and the world could certainly use more. But, it…
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Being the Parent You Always Needed
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There are many kinds of children and at least as many varieties of parents. When you think about the endless combinations, it’s a wonder things work out as well as they do. Sometimes our parents and their parenting styles are a good match for us and their influence on our lives is mostly beneficial. They…
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Can I Trust Again?
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in acceptance, betrayal, faith, forgiveness, hurt, infidelity, love, marriage, relationships, risk, trustMost of us have been hurt or betrayed at some point in our lives. Its a terrible feeling that can have lasting repercussions, if we let it. When our experiences of hurt and betrayal linger, they can seep into our future relationships and impact our functioning with our families, friendships and colleagues. These negative feelings…
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Destructive Relationships
Most people learn how to be in relationships from the people they grew up with and if you had destructive role models, there is a chance you might find yourself in a similar situation as an adult. Sometimes people wind up repeating a cycle they witnessed or experienced as youngsters. Other times, in an effort…